How We Deal with Potty Coaching

Guess what took over the past 4 days in our home? Yuuup… potty coaching! I’d be mendacity if I stated I used to be psyched to dive into potty coaching insanity once more however this was our third time across the block and I really discovered myself feeling comparatively relaxed about the entire ordeal. I knew it wouldn’t be good. I knew there could be accidents. I knew there’d be hiccups and hurdles alongside the best way however I additionally knew we’d get there… or will get there — we’re doing effectively however we’re nonetheless solely 4 days in with Rhett so we’re not “carried out” by any means. It’s a course of and we’re getting there!

(The potty training reward tokens pictured above are an Amazon discover!)

After I shared we had been diving into potty coaching on Instagram, I obtained a bunch of messages asking me to share my expertise. Three children later and I believe I lastly have a adequate grasp on potty coaching to share a weblog publish about our strategy based mostly on what labored (and is at present working) for our boys.

Earlier than we got down to potty prepare Chase (our oldest son), I learn the guide Oh Crap! Potty Training. It’s an extremely useful useful resource and one I like to recommend however I additionally encourage anybody who reads it to take it with a grain of salt. It’s saturated with info and may enhance stress for some, too. I took the “take what works for us, depart what doesn’t” strategy when studying that guide. The outcome was a potty coaching methodology that isn’t fancy, catchy or Pinterest-graphic pleasant but it surely works for us and helps us maintain our sanity and never stress over one thing we all know our children can deal with.

As for the boys’ ages, we’ve potty skilled all three of them across the identical age. Our boys all have summer season birthdays and we’ve potty skilled all of them at two-and-a-half years outdated once they’ve been a pair months shy of three. This has confirmed to be a candy spot with our boys as a result of they will talk, perceive us and appear to get what’s taking place. (I’m fairly certain the Oh Crap Potty Coaching guide had me sweating and stressing pondering I missed the “best” potty coaching window with Chase however we had been completely high-quality.) Potty coaching a number of months earlier than Chase and Ryder started attending the 3s class at their preschool gave them a few months to work on potty coaching, deal with hurdles, apply going potty outdoors of our residence, and many others. and we’re doing an analogous timeline for Rhett for a similar motive.

And now let’s transfer proper alongside to how we strategy potty coaching!

Hopefully you all know this by now however please know I’m not even near a potty coaching knowledgeable. I’m only a mother of three who has been across the potty coaching block a time or two and located a way that works for her children and retains stress minimal. In the event you’re planning to potty prepare your baby quickly, I encourage you to make use of what may be just right for you from this publish and ignore something that isn’t an incredible match for you or your youngster.

How We Deal with Potty Coaching

That is HUGE! We discuss so much about potty coaching for every week or so earlier than we start. This appears like studying potty-specific books (the boys have all beloved this one and this one because of the interactive noisy buttons), taking them alongside to select some enjoyable character underwear, involving them in choosing their rewards for potty coaching and watching the Daniel Tiger potty coaching episode. The Daniel Tiger potty episode features a little potty tune (“If you need to go potty, cease and go straight away. Flush and wash and be in your manner!”) and we sing this tune continuous throughout potty coaching. It’s an incredible useful resource and I believe it resonates effectively with children as a result of it’s memorable and makes it really feel rather less tense and traumatic. This Daniel Tiger potty training book is an effective way to strengthen the episode.

  • Commit To Being Residence for 2-3 Days

We clear our calendar and decide to holing up at residence for 2 or three days when it’s potty coaching time. Playtime outdoors within the yard is completely high-quality (an enormous perk of summertime potty coaching!) however aside from that, we keep residence and attempt to place ourselves in the identical room as the child who’s potty coaching as a lot as attainable. This makes it simpler to note indicators that they might want to make use of the potty and we’re higher in a position to rapidly transfer them to the potty if an accident begins. Throughout these few days, we’re all about recurrently encouraging journeys to the potty all day lengthy. Loading up on liquids so extra common journeys to the potty occur is one other tip I learn that we additionally implement.

  • Bare from the Waist Down

This one was met with a bit resistance from Chase and Rhett however maintaining the boys bare from the waist down has been pivotal for us for the primary few days. It makes it simpler to see an accident the second it begins and the children REALLY discover the wetness as a result of it’s throughout their legs and ft. None of our boys have favored this sense and I believe after the primary couple of accidents they start to place two and two collectively and understand that to ensure that their our bodies to remain dry, they need to make it to the potty.

I do know there are combined viewpoints about reward-based potty coaching however we’re ALL about it. It really works and severely motivates our boys. Now we have all the time carried out a bit sticker chart which works effectively for the primary or two day however finally all of our boys have misplaced curiosity within the sticker reward chart. What didn’t they lose curiosity in? Sweet. Haha! Selecting considered one of their favourite candies (or, in Rhett’s case, marshmallows) as a reward for any profitable potty journeys labored like a attraction for our boys and positively elevated their motivation to sit down on the potty and attempt to go. Just a little deal with after a profitable journey to the potty is just not one thing I sweat as a result of I do know they gained’t be ready for a marshmallow or M&M from Mother after each potty journey for all the times. I’m completely high-quality with a bit one thing particular to assist reinforce our reward once they make it to the potty, particularly since that is the a part of potty coaching out children have favored finest!

One different novelty price mentioning that’s not precisely a reward however positively elevated potty coaching enthusiasm with our boys are these color-changing potty stickers. You place one on the backside of a bit potty and so they change coloration when warmth (on this case pee!) prompts them. They rinse clear in order that they’re resuable and add a bit additional enjoyable to the monotony of potty coaching.

I do know this isn’t practical for the long-term however in the course of the first couple of days at residence, we take a little potty with us and transfer it throughout the home so the potty is well accessible always. Finally it will get saved within the rest room however to start with of potty coaching, maintaining the potty shut by works effectively for us. For these potty coaching little boys, I extremely advocate a potty that has a bit hump that goes between their legs (like this one) to attenuate splashing and messes. I additionally ordered this potty seat that folds away that you simply place on prime of an enormous bathroom however we have now not transitioned to that one for Rhett to make use of simply but.

  • Don’t Sweat Naps and Nighttime

This was recommendation I obtained from our pediatrician throughout our first go-around with potty coaching Chase that I took to coronary heart. Don’t sweat naps or nighttime potty coaching straight away. Little children have little bladders and in the event that they’re nonetheless waking up after nighttime with a full, moist diaper, pondering they will maintain it by the night time is likely to be a bit an excessive amount of to deal with straight away. We’ve all the time allowed for diapers throughout naps and nighttime and whereas I initially anxious this is likely to be complicated, Chase and Ryder by no means appeared to query it or get confused and so we’re taking the identical tactic with Rhett.

As soon as our 2-3 days at residence for the preliminary potty coaching blitz are up, it’s underwear time! We attempt to actually, actually encourage use of the potty earlier than leaving the home at any time when we have now to go someplace and likewise go to the potty proper once we arrive someplace to attenuate accidents as a lot as attainable. That being stated, you higher consider we have now a spare pair of underwear and shorts/pants within the automotive always in case of an accident for fairly some time simply to be protected.

I do know pull-ups work for a lot of however I’ve by no means carried out them for our boys as a result of the boys’ 2s preschool instructor instructed us she’s seen many children get confused by them as a result of they don’t really feel the wetness after an accident as a lot as actual underwear. (She has 20+ years of expertise serving to children study to go potty so I trusted her recommendation on this one!) As a substitute of pull-ups, once we first start venturing out of the home, I’ve put the boys in extra-absorbent cotton underwear. It’s a bit thicker within the crotch space than conventional children’ underwear so it helps take in dribbles and a small quantity of urine but it surely nonetheless permits the kid to really feel wetness after an accident. They’ve been my go-to for the start days/weeks of potty coaching! Observe: They are going to NOT maintain your youngster utterly dry and should not a diaper substitute by any means however they’re useful in stopping moist shorts/pants if a toddler lets out a bit dribble (not a full bladder launch).

  • Acknowledge A Lot of Children Have Their “Factor” When It Involves Potty Coaching + Accidents Occur + Working towards Endurance

One factor I’ve realized with regards to potty coaching is that many, many children have a hurdle of some kind to beat with regards to potty coaching. I vividly keep in mind two of my girlfriends struggling big-time as a result of their kids refused to poop within the potty in any respect and all the time requested for a diaper. Ryder was our child who refused to poop at college and would have an accident proper once we arrived residence from preschool except we made certain he ran inside and instantly used the potty. Proper now, our hurdle with Rhett appears to be the massive bathroom. He a lot, a lot prefers his little potty and is kind of intimidated by an actual bathroom. We’re taking our time with this in the mean time and limiting lengthy journeys out of the home as a result of he appears nervous about sitting on something aside from his little potty. (I’m open to tips about tips on how to make this simpler for him if any of you’ve gotten any recommendation!) Speaking with many, many mates made me understand numerous children have one thing they need to work on throughout their potty coaching journey and potty coaching is usually removed from seamless. (Additionally, for any new readers, this blog post Q&A I did with a potty training expert once we had been within the midst of potty coaching Chase addresses numerous potty coaching hurdles!)

I’ve discovered myself reminding myself to provide the boys (and myself) numerous grace throughout potty coaching. Potty coaching could be irritating and I believe it’s okay to confess it’s not probably the most enjoyable or thrilling endeavor to embark on with a toddler. Is it annoying if you ask your youngster in the event that they need to go potty solely to listen to them say “no” and have an accident two minutes later? After all. Does it occur? After all. Whereas potty coaching can occur rapidly for some, it typically takes time and includes some accidents alongside the best way. Protecting expectations practical and never imagining your child as some type of potty prodigy can go a good distance.

And now I’d loveee to listen to from you guys! Please weigh in beneath, as I do know numerous us profit from feedback and recommendation from those that have been by the ringer with kid-related stuff like potty coaching! You guys have helped me numerous occasions throughout my motherhood journey and I’m all the time so grateful on your insights!

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